Not much matters in life
It just doesn’t.
Well, that’s what I’ve read lately…and I disagree

I find that life is pretty interesting…This my friend, is what I think matters…not based on any research but only through my own observations, some common sense  and my share of ups and downs in life. We all have a lifetime of poor decisions to make, so I decided to put my years of life’s experiences to good use by helping others in their personal development and to inspire others who want to get more out of life. My vision is to help you broaden your perspectives with a greater understanding and respect for life, and to simply, stimulate your thinking. 

Some of these life’s lessons will help to guide your daily actions and choices, put you very deep in thought and will check on your sense of humor. The kid next door just challenged me to a water fight, so I thought I would write some of this while I waited for the water to boil…
I’m sure this reality check will offend some because they may have a hard time accepting change and reality, which can show being overly stuck in your ways and heading towards being fairly narrow minded. They are usually the ones who get offended at someone else’s opinion. Just because someone is offended at something, doesn’t mean they’re right. People have a right to their opinion, and you have the right to ignore it. Understand that no one can offend you about anything without your permission.

It’s interesting some days to observe the stress people put on themselves by being offended when they don’t really need to be. So if you’re ever offended, by anything-that’s a choice you’re making. Even our freedom of speech is slowly being reduced, because of the absurd over-politically correct world we now live in. So in this new age of safe spaces and whining about everything, the world now seems to get so offended over the least little things. We never used to. Some things in the world are now too raw and too real for mainstream sensibility.

This may stir up thoughts and memories that will put tears in your eyes or make you mad enough to consider hitting me over the head with a shovel. Some things we may regret not looking after properly until it’s too late…which we then realize they were high in importance but low in priority. Things you wish you could tell your younger self to do different. We often forget that those things that matter the least should never get in the way of those things that matter the most.

In the few times we periodically pause to reflect back on our own life, it’s been my observation that many of us feel disappointed with where we now stand in life. We get stuck in a rut, complain and then blame all kinds of external forces for where we are. This leads to us being bored with our lives if nothing exciting or challenging happens. The reality is that your life won’t change unless you change it. So in all things, lead by example not explanation.

We normally don’t like to think about the fact that one day we won’t be here. Some days it’s even pretty darn horrifying. But here’s the thing, it can also be incredibly motivating. We forget that we, ourselves have the biggest influence over the direction in which we take in life, since your future depends on what you do right now. What could you be doing more of today to improve your life tomorrow?
It’s a good time to stop, and take a few moments and reflect on your own life…but wait, I’ll go first. Then it’ll be your turn. Apply these to your own world as you see fit. Repeat as necessary.

1) Good health–without it, it’s almost impossible to have anything else. It brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it. As human beings, and never in the history of mankind, human ignorance and greed has us as the only species on the planet stupid enough to destroy the nutritional value of food before eating it. There is three letters, and one question. WTF?

So this really poses another question, are we also stupid enough, yes stupid enough, to poison ourselves, yet still find ways to justify all that poisoning and even create allowable limits for it?  Pretty damn smart, aren’t we. Doesn’t it make you feel good that there is always someone watching out for us who claim they have our health and best interests in mind.

Even small doses of poison are still poison, right? These small doses now seem to be one of the many major contributors to the epidemic rates of chronic disease we experience today. Do a search on some big food companies and you will be stunned how we are getting poisoned, and they know it. What is this world coming to? We are letting them poison us on purpose… and apparently we are still stupid enough to keep buying their products. You can’t help but wonder when we’ll wake up. It’s nice to see there is some countries in the world smart enough to refuse food or technology until they are proven safe. They obviously care for their citizens.

We are getting smarter everyday while getting sicker…yet we still seem to focus on relieving our symptoms with disease management instead of cures or prevention, and almost never consider the root cause of what made you sick in the first place. Something sure is wrong with that. It’s beyond pathetic when we prioritize profits over clean air, water and food quality. The sad fact is that there is more money to be made from treating the symptoms of diseases instead of curing the problem. Our health has now become a victim of someone else’s profit margin.

Educate yourself, develop new healthy eating and living habits, learn about disease prevention and the scary but all too real toxicity of products we use every day. It will help you towards a better quality of life. There are too many people counting calories but not enough people counting chemicals. A healthier lifestyle doesn’t always just set you up for a longer life, it sets you up for a better life. You sure will appreciate it when you are older.
It is far easier to keep the good health you have rather than try to recover it after it is lost. Can you imagine a more worthwhile goal? Diet tip. Your pants won’t get too tight if you don’t wear any… Keep your mental and physical health a priority. Stop making excuses. Kick yourself hard if you make some.

Always eat real foods, get proper nutrition, be aware of this GMO garbage that has manipulated our food supply and is slowly making us all very sick. For few reasons beyond greed and stupidity, some big corporations feel the need to grow and make foods faster and cheaper with no regard to our health, creating what will soon be one of the biggest health crisis in history.
If these companies who grow and promote their GMO products are so proud of them, why aren’t their  products always labelled that way? To me, it seems obvious they aren’t safe for us to consume and they have something to hide. Where’s the logic in changing what nature has created for us, ever since we cooked dinosaur meat on the BBQ?

Food can be the slowest form of poison or the most powerful form of medicine. Those who think they have no time or money for healthy eating now will sooner or later have to find time for illness. Let that sink in for a minute…You can either pay the farmer now or pay the doctor later. Yes, it is expensive to eat healthy but it costs a lot more when you’re sick. I have been trying really hard to eat better so I was having a healthy snack. And choked on a carrot. I bet a donut wouldn’t have done this to me…

The real challenge is staying consistent and motivated. Self discipline and the ability to create intentionally healthy habits is perhaps one of life’s most valuable skills. Problem is though, we are usually too impatient to make it happen long term.
Take care of You first, then you will be able to be there for others. I don’t think this is being selfish either. Self care is a way to build yourself up. If you can’t breathe, nothing else matters, does it.

I have read research that has shown the closest thing we will ever find to the fountain of youth is doing full body strength training, combined with the right nutrition. It could be the greatest lifespan-enhancing characteristic since looking both ways before crossing the street. So don’t always buy into the ‘you are getting too old’ bullshit…oops…myth. But remember you want to challenge yourself, not kill yourself at it.

You will never get that nice looking ass you want by sitting on it… nothing happens until something moves. Your sweat will be your fat crying…I wish everything was as easy as getting fat. Yesterday I was digging out some clothes and found something I wore five years ago. It still fit. So proud of myself. It was a scarf. But still. let’s be positive here..

And unless you fell off the treadmill, and smacked your face, nobody really wants to hear about your workout…I didn’t make it to the gym again today, that makes it five years in a row…I was asked to describe myself in three words. Lazy…

I think for most of us, the fitness center is always a nice place to admire and walk by on the way to the bar…I didn’t go far, but I actually ran twice today. First I ran out of beer then I ran to get some more…And it’s so much harder on those days when the heat index is between OMG and WTF.
I do 5 sit ups every morning. It may not seem like much but there’s only so many times you can hit the snooze button… When the alarm goes off, consider it to be life’s first gift of the day to us. You woke up. You now have the opportunity to create the life you want. Don’t waste it.

As a wise man once said, “Don’t let the sun catch you in bed”… I always set my alarm extra early to make sure I have enough time to lay in bed and be angry about having to get up…And for those who can’t wake up very easily, get one of those alarm clocks that makes the sound of a cat throwing up when the alarm goes off…while you’re still half asleep. it will make you think for a minute whether or not you own a cat…
Someone tell me how this works. Sleeping in is considered being lazy but going to bed early is not? If only my bed was as comfortable when I am trying to fall asleep as when I am trying to wake up…

I like to keep fit so I used to compete in sports a lot…and I used to lose a lot…then I learned you can buy trophies…now I am good at everything… If you have ever been seriously sick, you know how good it is to feel good. I can relate to that.

Society has us being brainwashed, overfed and under nourished, creating an unhealthy, confused and overly sedated population.  Look around. Such a mind controlled world we now live in. Repeated exposure to false information will make us eventually believe it to be true. The world now has learned how to tap into our insecurities and get us to believe almost anything because people who constantly feel inferior about health and life make the best customers.

I believe that the problem is not always people being uneducated. The problem is that they are educated just enough to believe what they’ve been taught and not educated enough to question what they have been taught. So it never hurts to question authority.

What makes you think a magic pill from a doctor is always gonna heal your health issues that took years of poor eating and lifestyle choices to create? You don’t get sick because you’ve been lacking Tox-Sick prescription drugs in your body. Think about it. Your health is your own responsibility. What are you waiting for? Death by stubbornness is all too real. Just don’t wait till your headstone reads, “Told you I was sick.”
It’s so sad but true, it seems to be the norm now that we just manage chronic health conditions with multiple medications that give us chemically induced absence of symptoms. That’s not acceptable. We deserve so much better than that. Although there are times when medications are absolutely necessary, as a society, I believe we’ve gone way over board and are relying on drugs to “create health” for us. Doesn’t always work.

2) Solid friendships–we are social creatures. Don’t go it alone. Loneliness kills your soul. So keep making friends, they add value to your life. Give them the time and effort they require, but people can inspire you or drain you, so choose your friends wisely. Your imaginary friends don’t count. People drift towards others with the same attitude and mentality so pay attention. Be very careful who you trust and confide in. Hang out with people who understand the concept of loyalty.

Not everyone you decide to share your problems with can keep a secret. The hardest thing about being a good honest person is knowing when to stop talking before the hurtful words come out. Sometimes a listening ear becomes a running mouth. Only a select few people will actually care, the rest want to have something to gossip about.

I have noticed we rarely lose friends, we just gradually figure out who our real ones are. A real friend walks with you when the rest of the world walks on you. But everyone seems normal until you get to know them. Amazing how many people are so disturbed and insecure that they lay awake at night thinking of how to make life difficult for others, how to piss people off on purpose, just to feel better about themselves and seem to get a cheap childish thrill from it. Most of us know people like this. I sure do. Pretty pathetic they don’t have more important things to think about.

And it seems you only hear from some people when they want to borrow something you have, or ask you for favors but never seem to return the favor. Makes you think, right? Always wise to keep that in mind before you say yes. You will end up very disappointed if you expect people will always do for you as you do for them. Not everyone has the same heart as you.

Some people aren’t loyal to you, they are loyal to their need of you. Once their needs change, so does their loyalty. Kind of like if you just won the lottery, who would suddenly show up and be your best friend? Good friends offer, bad friends ask. If you don’t let go of the wrong people, you won’t meet the right people. I think most of us have that one friend, you know, we still hang out with a lot that you just wish would take a day or two off from being an asshole…

Got good neighbors? Most of us have dealt with an asshole neighbor at some point in our lives. They’re always sitting on the porch screaming at you to quit running through their sprinklers and go put some clothes on. Sure, it’s cute when your 5 year son does it, but when I do it it’s “indecent exposure” and something called “trespassing…”

You can always tell who is a really good friend because they will be interested in what’s going on in your life, instead of only bragging or complaining about what’s going on in theirs. Probably time to take notice. It’s hard to find a friend who’s cute, generous, sexy, caring and smart. My advice to y’all is, don’t lose me…times will change but being awesome never gets old.

Spend more time with people who love and appreciate you…and prove it. Know that life is not fair, get used to it, so find someone special to help you through it. Sometimes those of us who don’t socialize much aren’t actually anti-social, we just have very little tolerance for drama, stupidity, fake and selfish  people. Not everyone who is quiet is snobbish. In some ways it’s almost a good idea to be quiet now in this thin skinned easily offended world we have created. People will get insulted and quit talking to you without even explaining why or what you did wrong. And you probably won’t even get a chance to explain yourself either. What an insecure and immature way to break up relationships.

So prove to those who you are actually grateful for…not always to those you have to acknowledge out of genetic obligations. And when it comes time for those necessary yet unwanted family get togethers keep a family preparedness kit on standby. Aspirin, ear plugs and some hard liqour should help you get through it. You know…just in case…

Don’t worry about people from your past because there is a reason why they didn’t make it to your future. Never chase love, affection or attention. If it isn’t given freely by another person, it isn’t worth having.
Falling in love and being loved in return is the peak experience in human existence. But if we all want love, why does it seem like there is so much conflict in our most cherished relationships?

3) Rewarding work. You have to love your job. Seek out a new job if you have a bad boss, seems to work out to be one of many reasons we take sick days. Maybe one who is constantly on a power trip, maybe an attention seeking macho asshole, a control freak or just a natural born dick head. Are you promised the world and get nothing? A boss is only as good as their word. 

They may be rich and greedy as hell, and might not pay you overtime hours when the law says they are supposed to. Honesty is a very expensive gift, dont’t expect it from cheap people. And I would say if they choose not to, it shows no respect for their employees devotion and hard work they do. Laws are created for a reason. An accident may have brought you into this world. Don’t let one take you out. So always, safety first.

Do they get defensive if you challenge their ideas? Do your own ideas get shot down? Do they celebrate your accomplishments? Do they ever thank you for a job well done or usually discredit you? Do they show their distrust and check over your work? Do they only appear to be happy, when you’re not? Do they even acknowledge you exist, until they really need you? Do they make you feel powerless, insignificant or useless? You’ll never get more productivity out of people by pissing them off.
Do they throw you under the bus and pick on you for no reason and treat you like something you scraped off your shoe? Then you have to spend your day to try to humor the asshole? Never works…Oops, did I just think that out loud? Do you get respect as a person, for your talents and for your scheduled time off?

Maybe someone who has their priorities screwed up and couldn’t organize a birthday party. Do they demonstrate a short term memory, does it change each day to whether you are doing your job too fast or too slow, or are too fussy? Maybe…probably…too spineless to get rid of useless employees. I bet at least the bottom 10% are sucking up time and energy generating negativity, which means customers won’t be being served properly and pissing off fellow employees in the process. They will be creating more problems than they resolve. No one benefits when you or I put up with incompetent people.

Maybe your job is too boring now and you need a career change because it’s not taking you anywhere. “You learn little from the familiar”  Maybe you can’t stand the stupidity there anymore. Maybe the stress level is way beyond acceptable now. Over-stressed is when you wake up from a deep sleep and start screaming out loud, then realize…you weren’t sleeping.

Or are there just far too many arrogant co-workers for your liking? Do they act like the biggest bunch of immature kids on the play ground, or the most selfish people you have ever known? Is your workplace a toxic environment, both mentally and physically? Is there a different set of rules for everyone? 
Are your co-worker friends loyal and devoted to you or to the boss? It really can’t be both. Don’t find out the hard way, like I have. It’s usually a hard learned lesson when you find out who is a stool pigeon. So be careful who you confide in. Life at work sure is better when everyone sticks and works together.

If they gossip and back-stab, or are always trying to one-up you,  they aren’t good people either. So, set your standards high, refuse to be one of your boss’s puppets. You deserve better. Many times there’s a line up waiting for that job. Don’t be in it.  

Insecure people steal the spotlight and criticize others in order to prove their worth, and end up being big ass kissers to the boss. It’s similar to going fox hunting, with a pack of dogs. If you’re not the front dog, it’s just one asshole following another…You never look good trying to make someone else look bad. The power of ass kissers has proven to be one of the strongest forces in the world. Someone prove me wrong. I have been both speechless and stunned when I have witnessed how it works. The moment you start pointing fingers is the moment people usually start seeing you as someone who lacks accountability for their own actions. 

People who lack confidence see the need to suck up. Usually the types who are too stupid to realize they won’t get any respect if they don’t give it out. Sound right? Do you feel like a preschool teacher at your job, and don’t work at a school?  Do you feel dumber every day you are there? Have certain people around you started treating you like you just kicked their puppy?
Can you easily say, “if assholes could fly, this place would be an airport”? Don’t ever consider it acceptable. Yes, you deserve better.  Life is too short to spend looking forward to quitting time and pay day. And I would say, there’s really nothing wrong with Mondays… You just hate your job.

It’s not always the shitty job that’s the worst part, it’s the 9 hour wait to go home that is so hard…Over the years, one of the best life lessons I have been taught from the bosses I have worked for, and they don’t even know it, is don’t trust your boss. Way too many and more than you know about, are forever watching and spying on us and we are supposed to trust them? I don’t think so. Works both ways. It’s usually quite obvious they don’t trust us. But there are always a select few that do need watching. Trusting employees leads to greater employee loyalty, because it costs a small fortune to keep training new people. 
Funny how it works, many mistakes made always work out in their favour, not ours, especially when our pay cheques are involved.  Most of the time you are only a number and they will tell you anything they need to, temporarily suck up to you when necessary, just to benefit them. I know how it works, I’ve been there many times. If you can disagree with this, I would say you’re either naive as hell or pretty damn lucky.

To me, a good boss learns about their employees, treats them and knows them well…Because they care. Not nearly often enough do we hear someone say that their employer is a good place to work.
And the size of your pay cheque usually proves whether you are appreciated or not. And providing you deserve it, they would throw raises and promotions at you, because they realize that if they don’t, someone else will. A pat on the back goes way farther than a kick in the ass. That’s a law that’s always forgotten.
So don’t work for an asshole. Life is too short. The hardest part of my current job is being nice to stupid people…I work in a world where there’s always enough time to do a project the second time but never enough time to do it right the first time. Sound familiar?

Have a job that challenges and interests you so you can take pride in your work. The quality of the job is always in the details. Everyone is good at something but we don’t always find out what it is during our life time. One of my best talents, is talking with my mouth full…

Way too many bosses don’t grasp this concept…treat employees like they make a difference, and they will. Everything rises and falls upon leadership. A happy employee always does a good job, saves the company time and money. People are more likely to succeed if they are given responsibilities instead of tasks.
The average boss won’t notice that as long as people are sometimes complaining at their job, they usually care about their job and want improvements, and when they stop they are usually job hunting and then DGAF. I used to care, but I take a pill for that now…Over the years I have realized the less you give a fvck, the happier you will be. Just do your job. 

There are many things to contemplate when considering a new job offer. To me, peace of mind and less stress is right up there. Better hours and closer to home are always important too. But people don’t always stay at a job because of the money. The top two reasons they leave a job are the quality of the people they work with and not getting the feeling that the work they do is meaningful, which gives us a sense of purpose. When we have purpose, you feel that your existence matters and that what you do every day is important.
And without purpose we have a lack of identity, which even seems to create health problems. People want to feel that their contributions and ideas are valued. Having their input taken seriously gives them more pride in their work.    

Amazing how many good workers leave an employer because they can’t tolerate the ignorant dick heads, greedy ass-kissers and back stabbers they work with. Most bosses won’t notice this though, they are too busy sucking up the attention from others. Being a good person and good worker will very seldom get you farther than the ass kissers either. I find it fascinating what you can learn about the world just by going to work…

And nothing says you have to be so devoted to your job that you have to make life miserable for the rest of the world that deals with you. So many get a childish thrill from being on a useless power trip…Unless you own the place, people who eat, live, breathe and worship their job, and are so far up the bosses ass it’s sickening, almost makes me barf up the oatmeal I had for breakfast…Anyone else agree? I think most of us don’t care much for people like this. You can and will be replaced one day. If you enjoy what you do and where you work, and it’s just a pay cheque, that’s great. Big difference.

I will go out of my way and pay extra to do business with companies who have employees with more brains and personality than a sock puppet, and where I get treated with respect. Not enough of that in the world anymore. Strange how a lot of management doesn’t grasp this concept on how customers want to be treated. Some consideration should always be made to put the proper personalities in the proper jobs. So be grown up and responsible enough to be able to work on your own, without always being told what and how to do it.

Everyday I am sure most of us have that disappointing moment, you get to work and the buildings not on fire…Are you sick of working long hours but not having the money or freedom to show for it? Until you’re at your wits end with the way things are, will you finally decide to make the changes necessary. Chances are good your passion for your job isn’t as high as it used to be, and you’ve mentally checked out. When it boils right down to it, nothing is really work unless you would rather be doing something else.

If your job has never delivered the money and life style you truly want, it likely never will. Time for a change isn’t it. And I think we all have noticed that after we change jobs, good friends you though you had don’t contact you any more. Sometimes I feel like not going to work, but then I remember I was born sexy not rich… 

Problem is though, most of us won’t make a change until the pain of your current situation–whether boredom, lack of money or just scared to, outweighs your fear of making a change. If you’re searching for that one person that will change your life, take a look in the mirror.

4) If you have these symptoms–mild thirst, occasional hunger and get tired at night, then you have the ability to give back and help others. Its a secret to happiness not many learn. Never look down on anybody unless you’re helping them up. If you are more fortunate than others, build a longer table, not a bigger fence.
You have never really lived until you have done something for someone, who can never repay you. Be proud of yourself to “pay it forward” whenever you can. It helps make the world a better place. Who doesn’t want that?
There are two things in life that are guaranteed-You were born and you are eventually going to die. What occurs between those two bookends of life is where the fun happens. Make yours count. Do something today that your future self will thank you and be forever grateful for. What legacy are you out to create? Some of the best days of your life haven’t happened yet.

5) Never be childish enough to hold grudges for the rest of your life. Grudges are for those who think and insist that they are owed something from someone.  Apparently, you need to get a life if you haven’t got more important things in your life to stay focused on. You should consider getting your head examined by a professional. Seriously. This only allows the past to dictate how we should live and feel now. Don’t let anything or anyone live rent free in your head. So it’s time to live in the present. Time to grow up and get over it.

What’s the point of re-living the anger over and over? If you don’t have anything more important going on in your life to occupy your time, that’s when that trivial shit will bother you. If you are always thinking, growing, challenging yourself, enjoying life and partaking in enjoyable activities, there’s very little time for your mind to roam and get lost. We use more energy holding on to the negative things than it takes to let it go. 

Today is the oldest each of us has ever been and the youngest we will ever be again. You’ve got to live like it. And this is something we all forget till it’s too late…speak when you are angry and you”ll make the best speech you”ll ever regret.

Stop dwelling on what did or didn’t happen to you in the past. But, dear Karma…I have a list of people you missed…Always forgive but never forget. Life becomes easier when you accept the apology you never got. Forgiveness is a constant attitude of choosing happiness over hurt. Sometimes the first step towards forgiveness is realizing the other person was born an idiot. When you’re wrong, say you’re sorry, show others you actually have a backbone. People make mistakes, that’s why they put erasers on pencils. Let your mistakes be your motivation, not your excuses. You can always learn a lot by observing the mistakes others have made.  So always make a mental note.

No one ever gets enough praise so be sure to thank people for their efforts and always to those who have made a big impact in your life. And never gossip…don’t you have something more interesting and educational to talk about? More and more I have noticed that when people gossip, it almost always involves stretching the truth and getting innocent people in trouble. Sound right? I have been a victim…Because the truth is found in reality. When you speak the truth, reality always backs it up. I think, a happier life involves more thoughtful stimulating conversations

6) Stop spending more money on material things instead of experiences. These will be the moments you will remember forever. Many people have their priorities screwed up…get your shit together and look after what’s really  important. There’s something wrong if you place so much importance on material things and think you  need to give your car a kiss goodnight or if you almost suffer a heart attack if you get a scratch on it. Those things can be replaced. Most of them are a RRD investment any ways. Rust, rot and depreciate. What you own is not who you are.

The reason the world is in chaos is because things are being loved and people are being used, but it should be the other way around. Nowadays, people know the price of everything and know the value of nothing. We have multiplied our possessions yet reduced our values. More money than brains, and no common sense? That’s my guess… because your favorite things in life shouldn’t cost money.

It’s a big world out there. If you’re a bit too leisurely, give up watching cartoons for a while, get your ass off the couch, and quit doing something close to nothing. So go explore it and celebrate life. Could be big fun. Rise above being lazy but talented. I have noticed though, laws always get in the way of fun, don’t they? Besides…memories aren’t made playing video games. Save up for and cherish moments you will remember for the rest of your life. I don’t believe people are looking for the meaning of life as much as they are looking for the experiences of being alive.

7) Make a bucket list. We should all have a bucket list, and start it when we are very young. It will create a deep sense of fulfillment within you, and give you a sense of direction and pride when you achieve that goal. And it makes us stop and think what we actually want to experience in this life time. Have you started one yet, or done anything today to act on them? If you think now feels like the wrong time, think again. It’s just uncertainty messing with your mind. There’s no such thing as the right time, so get on it. So if not now, then when?

I was in the bathtub the other day. Don’t picture it, just play along…and the thought occurred to me that we also need a “fvck it” list…things you probably learned the hard way and a reminder to never do again. It’s not only what you do that matters. It’s also what you absolutely refuse to do. We should never base our life on things we “should” do either. Usually ends up being things you do because you feel you “should” but feel resentful about it after and should have said “No” to. And yes, we will get side tracked sometimes, nothing wrong with that, but how else do we ever stumble upon anything new?

It is impossible to turn excuses into possibilities. Your dreams and things you want to do and see makes life worth living. So never stop indulging in life’s little daily joys. Take notice of what you love, not what you hate. If you live in a cluttered world with previously enjoyed treasures you don’t need or use any more, get rid of it  if it’s not benefiting your life. If you can’t give it away to someone who will appreciate it, just do the environment a favor and dispose of properly because we are in danger of slowly destroying our selves and nature by our own stupidity and laziness. So do your part to help save the earth, it’s the only planet with beer…

Don’t let your dreams go unfulfilled. All too often, we fail to pursue a dream because we are comprimising a long term need with a short term want. If you would rather hold the couch down than go after your dreams, then you have made your choice haven’t you? You can change your behavior or change your dreams. You really can’t have both.
Probably a short list of essential rules to follow for living, couldn’t hurt either. If you don’t choose your rules, you will be a slave to someone else’s. Don’t ever let anyone make you feel like you don’t deserve what you want. Your needs matter.

The older you get, the more dreams slip through your fingers. I dream of a better world where chickens can cross the road without having their motives questioned… Live a life true to yourself, never what others want you to do. Fears kill more dreams than failure ever will. So don’t let fear decide your future. As a sad part of being alive, not all of our dreams can and will come true, so we should carefully pick what we have the best shot at and commit to it. Because the best dreams happen, when you’re awake…
When you feel your dream is accomplished, you prove to others that they have no say in who you can or can’t be. It gives you something to share with the world, because you lead by example anything is possible when you put your mind to it. Just remember, the word “someday” is a code word which usually means never. Make the rest of your life the best of your life. It’s up to you. No excuses. That’s right, I mean no excuses. So by now, you’re asking yourself two questions. What am I waiting for…and why am I talking to myself?

8) Don’t spend so much time at work. Never let your job take over your life, with the thought that a good career and big bank account will improve your life…trust me, it won’t. Sometimes we get so caught up in trying to accomplish something big that we fail to notice the little things that give life its magic. Can’t argue with the little things, it’s the little things that make up life. The more time and effort you put into the little things, the more important they become. Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory.

It’s difficult to live an extraordinary life if things aren’t good at home. Being busy is not an excuse to not spend time with your loved ones. It’s not about having time, it’s about making time.  If you value it enough you will make time for it. The main measure of success is how happy you are, when you aren’t working.

Prioritize time on the calendar first with those close to you. Pay particular attention to special events, vacations and  holidays. And birthdays. It’s a great time to celebrate life, so birthdays matter. Why? Because I say so. And so as we get older, how do you look at birthdays? Is it either, damn am I ever getting old? Or holy shit am I ever glad I made it to another one. Which do you do? Because perspective in life is everything. One makes us happy, the other depressed.

Schedule a date night often with the special someone in your life, so love doesn’t get stale. Never make your job the center of your life. Leave work at work. If you don’t, it comes at the expense of sharing love and creating precious memories.
The most important gifts you can give are your love, time and attention, so be present and involved.  One day you are going to miss the little things you are trying to hurry through now, because of such a hectic life. I wish I hadn’t worked so much. You will miss out on your children’s youth and your partners companionship. I missed mine. A huge and very painful lesson I learned waaaay too late in life. Something that will haunt me until my dying breath. Enough said.

9) Not being grateful sooner. Hard to realize when you’re young, but eventually it becomes clear that every moment on this earth is a gift we’re all so lucky to share. Time decides who you meet in life, your heart decides who you want in your life, and your behaviour decides who stays in your life.
Wake up every day and be thankful for your life, because someone somewhere is desperately fighting for theirs. Don’t be afraid that your life will end…be afraid that it will never begin. Be afraid of a life you never lived because you were too afraid to take action. The more grateful that you are, the happier you will be, and the more positive things that you will attract into your life. Sometimes life doesn’t turn out as planned, sometimes better.

The space and time you are occupying at this very moment is Life. Every new day that we have the ability to fog a mirror, means you matter in this world, and is another chance to change your life. There are no short cuts to any place worth going. We are all gonna be a long time dead, so we should all start to live… before we get too old and it’s too late. One day, you could wake up and realize you have squandered your life away leaving you nothing to show for it. Remember that what you have now was once among the things you only hoped for.
The truth is most people just let themselves get old. They stop doing the fun things in life, thinking it’s not appropriate and feeling guilty if they do. They somehow believe they have to be an “adult”, whatever the hell that means.

10)  Lots of less than good days happen, but they’re not mandatory. You can have a good day any time you want. I figure any day north of the grass is a good day. So stop more to appreciate the moment. Stand in silence and look up at the sky and contemplate how amazing life is. Never hurts to take it in now and again. Happiness starts and exists in the little things we do that make up life. Not being happy sneaks in when we lose sight of all the good things. The ironic thing is that it usually takes sadness for us to truly appreciate happiness.
We will always have our share of ups and downs, and everything in between, and I think that’s not always such a bad thing. Sometimes you fall down…because there is something down there that you are supposed to find…and it’s how you get back up that makes you great. Sometimes the bad things that happen in our lives put us directly on the path to the most wonderful things that will ever happen to us. 

But then if we were completely happy all the time, would we not get bored? I figure as long as we are satisfied is maybe the best we can hope for. I don’t always have a good day but sometimes I just pretend I am okay because I don’t want to annoy people with my problems…

When we look up and watch the stars, it can remind us of the loved ones we have lost that are watching down over us, because stars are like holes in the floor of heaven…Some of the most beautiful things in life are not seen, they are free and felt by the heart. That’s why we close our eyes  when we kiss, hug and dream. We all have two lives. And the second one starts when we realize that we only have one. So make yourself proud.

11)  Don’t worry so much. It takes away from today’s happiness and doesn’t accomplish…Anything. So be concerned, not worried. It’s like using your imagination to create things you don’t ever want and bogs you down with frightful thoughts about things that aren’t even happening and probably never will. When you allow your mind to focus on the unknown, it immediately responds with fear. Fear of what might happen, what could happen, or what won’t happen. You can form a lot of scary pictures in your head when you’re creating from the possibility of everything and the knowledge of nothing. Refuse to be a time traveler.

No amount of worrying or anxiety makes any difference to anything that is going to happen. No matter what happens you really only have two options. You can either handle things well and be happy, or you can handle them poorly and be miserable.
Worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair. Keeps you busy but doesn’t get you anywhere…the only time worry can be helpful is when it spurs you to take action and solve a problem. Spending today  complaining about yesterday wont make tomorrow any brighter.  Has it ever changed anything? Probably not. Happiness is letting go of what you assume your life is supposed to be, and sincerely appreciating it for everything that it is.

Way too many people worry about the “what if’s” and the “If I had only’s” and the “well now what” in life… It always seems to be human nature to want to highlight the negative. But it really only shows that you are relying on someone else to make decisions for you. And negativity only enters your thoughts if you allow it to. Don’t let fear of change make you believe that you are content with your life. Let’s see a quick show of hands…Am I right? We make time for the things we want to make time for, and excuses for everything else. You can’t have a positive life thinking negative thoughts. Chances are good some of the happiest people are the most stress free and have a great sense of humor. Tell your friends there’s a dumbass, between the letter Y and I on your keyboard. Have a look. And it’s…

12)  Stand up for yourself. Don’t take shit from anyone. Walk away from anyone or anything that does not serve a positive purpose in your life. You will never change what you tolerate. My personality is who I am, my attitude depends on who you are. Have you noticed some people are so moody you have to ask them what kind of mood they are in before you decide what to say?

Don’t be a coward who can’t speak their mind. Silence is for the weak. No matter what happens, never lose your identity. Refuse to lower your standards to accomodate those who refuse to raise theirs. Here’s another law that’s always forgotten…never argue with stupid or ignorant people. Listeners can’t tell which is which. Because they will drag you down to their level and beat you…with experience. It’s always a waste of time and energy.
You can be invited to an argument but you don’t have to participate. And its always a good idea to keep your brains bigger than your balls. You never see smart people starting a bar fight. Ever. So make sure you never let your emotions over power your intelligence.

14)  Whether Ripley’s want us to believe it or not, we spend too much time caring what others think. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering. Feel free not to give a damn. If you care what other people think about you, you won’t get anywhere in life. And who the hell cares what people say if they don’t have the balls to say it to your face? If you let something get to you and you react, you are intentionally giving off the vibe that that person has the upper hand over you.
Dream and others will think you’re crazy. Succeed and others will think you’re lucky. Aquire wealth and they will think you’re greedy. Many don’t understand how it works. People may wish you well, until you actually get somewhere. At that point many seem to get jealous. Some people will never support you because they are afraid of who you might become.

Too many people spend money they haven’t earned, to buy things they don’t need, to impress people they don’t even like. In the end, people will judge you anyways, so don’t live your life impressing others, live your life impressing yourself. Nothing is as awful as comparing yourself to others. If you’re focused on your own life, you won’t care what anyone else is doing. You can change your life if you really want to. And any time you want. Life shrinks or expands in proportion to ones courage.

So focus on what you can change, not what you can’t. It starts with changing the way you think. Our thoughts and actions create our reality. So quit reliving negative memories, quit feeling sorry for yourself, let go of having a victim mentality. Move forward. Life is too short. Never forget that you are the one in control of your life, no one else, even though others will try to. No one makes us angry. We make ourselves angry when we surrender control of our attitudes. If you feel the need to blame others for the problems in your life, it implies that you are incapable of controlling your own fate. That’s just a train wreck waiting to happen.

I think the world would be a lot happier if everyone would just mind their own damn business, because the world seems to want to know everyone else’s business instead of taking care of their own. Impressing people inspires jealousy which turns nice people into assholes. Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own. It shows you are insecure with yourself because you are envious of someone else.

Don’t settle for being average like everyone else. Being a little weird is ok, it’s just a natural side effect of being awesome. Dare to be different, and be proud of it. I sure am. And I have highly paid witnesses… It’s no fun being the same as everyone else. My dad taught me this at a very early age and am grateful for it. True story.
Find the courage to keep being your awesome self, and when people laugh at you for being different, laugh back at them for all being the same. Ever have that hilarious moment when someone tries to make you jealous and you actually don’t give a fvck?

15)  Listen earnestly to anything your children want to tell you, no matter what. If you don’t listen eagerly to the little stuff when they are little, they won’t tell you the big stuff when they are big. Because to them, all of it has always been big stuff. Talk with your kids, not just to them. Kids quit talking to their parents because their parents quit listening. 

So guys step up and be the man your kids are proud of, look up to and brag about. And always improve on being the man your lady fell in love with. So be sure to spend quality time giving your undivided attention to your kids, not just when they do bad things. Childhood is just like being drunk, everyone remembers what you did except you. When you are hugging a child, always be the last one to let go. You never know how long they need it.

Children grow up so fast in what seems like the blink of an eye. One day you are changing their diapers and before you know it they are changing yours…So make the most of the time you have with them. Encourage young children to have muddy, grassy or sandy feet by the end of each day. That’s the childhood they deserve. Before you know it they are grown up and moved far away. And if we don’t trust our children, how will they learn to be trustworthy? It is easier to build up a child than it is to repair a adult. No one stands taller than they who stoops to help a child.

The next generation of children is counting on us to teach them how to be responsible adults. Our job as parents is to give them great leadership, the tools and knowledge to make their own decisions as they grow older. Let’s leave better kids to the planet. The problem now seems to be that society is creating a generation of kids with few life skills, no ambition and no realistic expectations of what it means to go to work. They haven’t seen or thought enough about life yet, to know what their ideal life would look like, so they don’t always know good advice from bad. 

Encourage them to attend to things that interest and excite them. Never do their homework, and give them chores to do. It will help build a sense of accountability. Give them a chance to prove them selves.

So help make the world a better place. Teach young people what it means to give their word, and keep it, give respect for others and their possessions, know the value and not the cost of things, act on their visions and create goals, help them to be resilient, use good manners, show appreciation and gratitude. Encourage them to be ambitious, get a good career to have a better life and to make something of value of themselves.

Teach them not to pass the blame or make excuses, but to take responsibility for their actions. (Something we all need to do regardless of your age.) They will thank you when they are adults. Remind them they are worthy simply because they are, and they matter simply because they do. And kick their ass if they don’t keep their pants pulled up…
How do you consider your kids to be, are they well behaved or are they punks? Happiness is when you realize that your kids have turned out to be good people. I am very proud. Mine are. And to my guys, now young men, Thank You for your time. Something I will always cherish the most in my life. Love you guys. Always and forever.

Am I one of the few people who thinks getting a mortgage, learning basic self defence skills, first aid, changing a flat tire, investing money, survival skills in an emergency, relationships, knowing how to cook so they can eat well, (I need help, my cooking would gag a maggot. Go ahead, get a visual. I can wait)…learning how to sew and maybe growing a garden should be taught in schools, instead of some of the garbage taught now that has very little life value? 

16)  We should all volunteer more. One person can make a difference. Usually just interesting and motivated people who love to give back do it though. True admiration and respect is best reserved for those who quietly and unpretentiously make the world, a better place. It connects you with people, and gives you a sense of pride and self esteem that no amount of money could ever give you. It could add so much satisfaction to your life that you’ll need plastic surgery to remove your smiles.
Most of those who suffer remember the quiet, unassuming person. Someone who was there when needed, who listened without judging, who didn’t keep glancing at their watch, who hugged, touched and cried. Someone who was available and came on the sufferer’s terms, not their own.

What you have done for yourself alone dies with you, what you have done for others and the world remains. What a great mission in life, to make a difference, especially to those who can never repay you. So whenever in doubt, be generous. It costs nothing to be decent to other people and it could be worth everything, to someone who wasn’t expecting it. 

Respect for ourselves guides our morals. Respect for others guides our manners. So show the love, share the love, say fvck a lot…trust me, it’ll be fun…I wished I could have been at the meeting that society had when they decided what words were swear words, and which ones weren’t…

17) Never be afraid to say “I love you,” to the special people in your life. It’s probably the most powerful sentence in the world. Everyone not only wants to feel it, but needs to hear it. But the problem is sometimes when we say it we are afraid of the answer.  Always make it known how you feel. There’s no greater value than love. Never apologize for showing your feelings. When you do so, you apologize for the truth. So love simply, love generously. You are worthy simply because you exist. Opportunities are lost in the blink of a eye but regrets can last for a life time

18) How many opportunities do we miss by avoiding things we’re afraid of ? The reality is, we will never know. So don’t be afraid to do things…or try things. The fear of change causes us to not take the necessary risks to get what we want.  Someday you’ll look back and wonder what you were afraid of. Fear is not real. It only exists in your imagination. Danger is very real. But fear is a reaction and a choice. Courage is a decision. A good time to use your common sense. But if you’re shaking like a dog shitting razor blades, then you’re scared. 

Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change. It seems we have become experts in the habit of skepticism in order to lower the risk in our lives. So, be open minded enough to try new technology before you just assume it doesn’t work. Because the highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about and then you are seeking to defy the reality of our world. If you can’t change your mind, you can’t change anything.

19) Don’t stay in bad relationships. You are choosing to stay unhappy. We don’t always seem to know it at the time, but to stick around is a clear indicator that you don’t respect yourself enough to realize that you deserve better. Or are you just desperate and insecure enough to believe you can’t do better? Of course you can. You always have a choice. But it’s usually better to be alone than to be in bad company.
Sometimes you just have to give up on people- not because you don’t care, but it’s because they don’t. Just try not to let the bad ones spoil your appreciation and love for the good ones. Many times we end up sabotaging new potential relationships before they even get started.

You should make every effort to fix the rips and tears in a relationship, but there’s no honor in staying in hell. You always have the right to walk away. If the bad days out number the good, the person next to you has turned into a stranger and all they do is tear you down, it’s time to consider leaving. You deserve better.

Pretty sad when some want to start a war where at least one of them turn into a revengeful psycho, and spend more time hating each other than they ever did loving each other. What a waste of time. Don’t they have something more useful to spend their time and energy on? Years of love have been forgotten in the hatred of a minute. And then it seems nothing makes people madder than a logical solution to their emotional problem.

Instead of going to couple’s therapy, married people with problems should just join Tinder and see what a nightmare single people have to deal with. No shit eh. Some days it makes working things out and staying together look pretty good.
We all want to be loved but loving someone means giving them tremendous power to hurt you. Just remember, you always hold the power to what ever you want out of your life.
Here’s a interesting observation to make about a future breakup, um, oops, future relationship I mean…see if you can learn about how they treated and acted with others during their previous breakups. This could possibly happen to you too. 

So appreciate what you have learned. Nothing is more beautiful and powerful than a smile that has struggled though the tears. Smile because you learned from it and gained the strength to rise above it. Be willing to let go of what no longer serves you. Some situations, places, jobs, hobbies and people have expiration dates. Sometimes life closes doors on situations because it’s time to move forward. And that’s a good thing because we often won’t move unless circumstances force us to.

Even though you got hurt, you had the right intentions. So forgive yourself for being ashamed of trusting the wrong person. You were only being human. If you let yourself be a victim, it gives all the power to the person who betrayed your trust. But then I believe this is pretty close to the truth, nobody can make you a victim but you…nobody can make you happy, but you…nobody can make you feel anything, but you.   

If your significant other is sucking the will to live right out of you, its time to move on. After we get through the “look good on the outside but oh so fvcked up on the inside” stage, and the the time is right, it does give you the opportunity to learn about yourself, figure out who you are, what is needed to make you happy again and to re-evaluate your dreams and goals.
Don’t just go through it. Grow through it. Place a huge value on a having a happy healthy existence. If you’re having trouble, talk to somebody you trust…the voices in your head don’t count. And if you wake up one day and realize you are not yourself anymore, you could find yourself buried so deep in the dysfunction of the situation that you barely remember who you are and what you desire.   

Sometimes goodbyes from people who walked away are a gift, because it makes room for the ones who won’t. Each goodbye you receive sets you up for another Hello. Every new beginning comes from another beginnings end. Some people come into your life as blessings, others come in your life as lessons, usually found in the pain. The pain is to remind you that you’re human and make mistakes. Remember there are two kinds of pain, one that hurts and one that changes you. Both kinds help you grow.
When someone chooses to walk out of your life, let them. There’s no use in wasting your time on people who want leave you. Their part in your story is over. Yeah, you may miss them, but remember that you weren’t the one who gave up. It’s never a good idea to be the one who gives love a bad name, even though it probably seemed like a good idea at the time. The last thing you want to do is throw a pity party and feel sorry for yourself, it won’t do any good or get you anywhere.

Some strengthened you because they are supposed to be part of your memory, not your destiny. You can’t really begin to appreciate love until your heart has been broken. Anyone can show up when you’re happy. But the ones who stay by your side when your heart falls apart, they are your true friends.
I don’t think we should ever regret past relationships. At one point that person was probably close to a perfect fit for you and made you happy at that time in your life, even though it didn’t turn out like you had hoped. It makes you into a better person because of lessons learned so it can help you from being future clients of divorce lawyers. Sometimes it takes losing someone or something to realize what you had. If only the goodbyes were as nice as the hellos…

Many times we are forced into a break up for reasons you can’t even comprehend. People and priorities change. It seems so easy to make excuses to not make relationships a priority any more, with all the negative distractions in life. Its always hard to swallow at the time but be grateful for the experience. While in between nightmares about your ex, saying this to yourself, may help relieve the pain…”as the days go by, I think of how lucky I am that you’re not here to ruin it for me…” Breakups always hurt, but you will get over it and be just fine. Single but wiser.

Always say I got single not I got divorced. You are now independently owned and operated. Choose to define yourself by your freedom, not your past. Understand that the greater part of your misery or unhappiness from this point forward is determined not by your circumstances, but by your attitude. And changing this makes you see the world through new eyes. Yeah, really sucks breaking up and getting divorced, I know some who would much rather be a widower…

A problem with being single too long though, you can get selfish and you forget or neglect to think about others. Been there… Do you really miss that person or just how you thought life was gonna be with them? Big difference. If that special someone doesn’t enhance your life and add to your joy, then what purpose do they serve in your life? If you spend time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you’re allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.
Replaying a painful memory over and over in your head is close to a form of self abuse. If your partner starts missing or has always missed birthdays, holidays and anniversary plans, or doesn’t want to be with you then, you can be certain that your relationship is not deep. If a person wants to be part of your life, they will make an obvious effort to do so. Just something to take notice of.

Sometimes we may simply be with the wrong person but more often than not, we just lack the very basic foundation for relationships…tools and knowledge we were never taught  and over the years learn the hard way. But strangely enough, things the opposite sex just assumes we should know. Things that are essential to maintaining a healthy relationship. So communication and respect is king. The most important person in your life is the one who agreed to share their life with you. Treat them as such.

20) Very few of us are mind readers so do yourself a favor, learn how and why the opposite sex thinks and acts the way they do. Our brains are not even close to being wired the same. How guys and girls see the world differs. A lot. We learn, become motivated, how we feel, what we want, what drives us, how emotional we are, how we think and act, whats gross to one isn’t gross to the other.

How we see and consider romance and passion, how to communicate to each other in a way that actually works, how we get turned on… and off, how we feel and show love. We have totally different attraction triggers. It’s not even close. Love for men works totally different than it does for women. It’s hard to put the opposite sex in our shoes, because the shoes won’t fit. So make sure to appreciate the similiarities and respect the differences. We need to become more understanding about masculine versus feminine desire. We don’t always understand each others expectations. Seems to be easier to fight about rather than learn about it.

And to those who get pissed off and don’t understand or believe it, don’t forget, that it’s created by nature…like it or not. Life will be much easier when you accept this fact. Spend some time on this because you will be surprised by what you learn. I sure was. Probably only open minded people will do it though. So here’s some words to live by, “understanding changes everything.” Read that again and think on it.
Just make certain you understand how your own head and body works first. Most don’t, and then learn it the hard way. At some point in our lives we just assume the opposite sex must want what we want, so we give them what we want in the hopes of getting it back. Doesn’t work that way.

There comes a time in your life where you will walk away from all the drama and the toxic people who create it, those who probably bring more pain than pleasure. But then we seem to sweat the small stuff way too often. Really hard though, to know where to draw the line. Surround yourself with people who make you laugh and believe in you, so forget the bad and focus on the good. Falling down is part of life but getting back up is living.

And if there’s no trust, there’s no point. Don’t change so people will like you.  Be yourself and the right people will love the real you. And Love those who love you when you have nothing to offer but your company. In my experience, only immature people play games. Relationships are built on genuine connection, not trying to make others chase a carrot.

A good relationship is when someone accepts your past, supports your present and encourages your future, regardless of what happens with you together. You will know when a relationship is right for you because it will enhance your life, not complicate it. But while in your search, the problem with kissing a perfect ten is that your lips get cold when kissing the mirror…
Only re-enter the dating world when you’re genuinely excited to. Not because you feel like you have to or someone else thinks you should. But I have noticed that girls don’t always notice how handsome my mom says I am…The truest quality of any relationship in your life is always the experience you have when that person is right there, with you. Did you know…dating is the number one cause of marriage? 

And make sure it’s based on someone’s heart and personality, not just because of a natural un-earned gift like being extra good looking or the size of a bank account. It should be seen as a wonderful opportunity, not one who complicates it or who is a potential threat to your happiness, or is just there to fill a void in your life. You know you have found the “One” when you can love them and hate them at the same time.
Many of us have been at the point where it seems like the end of the world ,and you swear you can almost see it from here, but be sure to give your head a shake if you have considered blaming a new love for things a old love did. As sure as the sun will rise tomorrow it will bite you in the ass big time… Don’t ever let a lack of self esteem think you aren’t worthy of having a quality person in your life. People seem to have a hard time to accept, something which they do not believe they deserve.

But here is a hard fact of life. You must risk getting hurt in order to obtain a deeply satisfying relationship. Love starts with a smile, grows with a kiss, and usually ends with a tear. Love is not just a feeling, it’s something you do. True love is when the other persons happiness is more important than your own. Does this new person leave you better or worse, than before you met? No matter how attractive a person’s potential may be, you have to date their reality.

Consider that denying yourself this experience means that you are depriving some nice person in the world of the chance to date you, and could make their life better with you being part of it. Life does teach us what we don’t want, so that makes it easier to know what we Do want. Right?

I believe that if you can’t let go of the past, it’s because you haven’t made your future compelling and attractive enough. Work on creating a exciting today and future, then a shitty past won’t matter any more. You’ll never see the great things ahead of you if you keep looking at the bad things behind you. But when life doesn’t go as planned, we all wait for that light at the end of the tunnel, and if it ever arrives, we assume life will be better then. Sometimes that light at the end of the tunnel is a train coming…
Many people spend their time trying to find someone to sleep with, instead of finding someone worth waking up with. In today’s society being a hopeless romantic stuck in a hookup culture is now a special kind of hell.
Seems we don’t ever understand what satisfaction looks and feels like because we live in a world of endless choices. No wonder relationships don’t last, we don’t even see who is in front our eyes waiting to be loved. One lesson here? Love them while you can, not after their gone

Society now has taught us to have no idea how to see our lives for what they are, instead of what they aren’t. We all want love but way to many seem to refuse to give it, because we are becoming too damn selective for one another. You could be inadvertently shutting yourself off from someone wonderful, just because they don’t live up to a person that doesn’t, and never will exist. Sound about right? When will our lives ever be good enough? Knowing that we can be loved exactly as we are gives us the best opportunity for growing into the healthiest of people.

Sometimes, when you hold out for everything, you walk away with nothing. Our society just makes it way to easy to hope for the next best thing. Don’t ever settle but know that you can’t win if you don’t play. If you are looking for amazing, I believe you have to create it together, not wait for it. You can’t expect that one new person in your life to provide everything you need. 

21) Travel and see the world. Take more vacations. Go see everything you want and experience all you possibly can. Could be wall to wall fun. The world’s your playground. I’d rather experience reality than watch it on TV. We see a limitless world in a way that no generation before us has ever seen. So always take a lot of pictures along the way, so you will be able to relive those memories in the future and also to prove to the world that at one point in history you existed and made a difference.
And when you get somewhere new, especially if it’s in the middle of dumb fvck no where, don’t complain it’s different and not like at home. If everything was the same as at home, there would be no point in leaving home. Just remove your face from your dumb phone long enough so you can admire the scenery. So take a drive in the country  and admire nature. See how many smiles per gallon you can get. Appreciate different cultures and ways of life. And the way I see it, if you need music while on the beach, you’re missing the point.

Seems strange though, most people plan their vacations with better care than they plan their lives. But sometimes when the best laid out plans fall apart, they make way for the best memories. At least 98% of us will die at some point in our lives. So a little planning goes a long way. If you had the option to choose to go anywhere in the world right now, would it be to “somewhere” or to “someone”?

Birthdays are important but I feel it’s just as important to start counting adventures. It could be the most fun you can have with your pants on… You can always make money, you can’t always make memories. We don’t know the true value of a moment until it becomes a memory. Having more experiences helps us develop a new perspective on life. Do more things that make you forget to check your phone. After all it’s not about how many breaths you take, it’s about the moments that take your breath away.
Great things come to those who leave their comfort zone.  Don’t wait…the time will never be just right. So don’t wait to see that band, that comedian, that show, that friend or relative, take that holiday, visit that special sunny island, do it now while you still can. Because I bet yesterday you probably said tomorrow. What’s wrong with today? Because someday…it may be one day too late.

One day you will wake up and realize there isn’t any more time left to do the things you’ve always wanted to do. If this was your last day on earth, did you live up to the promises you made to yourself and how you acted on them? Do yourself a favor each day to acknowledge the fragile adventure we call Life. Don’t settle for a life of contentment and boredom, choose to have more than a mediocre existence.
Do you ever feel like you’re re-living the same day over and over? Way too often the days seem long yet the years are short. You need a higher purpose than just survival, because there’s much more to life than watch everyone else live it. To those of you who are already living out loud, thumbs up.   Great job. So are You really living life…or are you just paying bills until you die? Because before we know it we reach the age where life stops giving us things and only takes them away. 

22) Something I have learned the hard way over the years. Never give anything away for free. That’s my second favorite four letter “F” word…It’s hard to observe being generous and then realize very few people appreciate something they get for free. Most people seem to devalue those items.  Always great to see the rare exceptions though. Seems the value of something is proportional to the amount of effort excerted to get it. But there are occasions though where some things cost too much, even if they are free. I am very grateful and appreciate everything I have and get for free because I was raised properly. Thanks mom and dad. I know you’re watching from heaven and are proud of me.  

And always tell your parents how much they mean to you, while you still can. We’re so busy growing up we sometimes forget that they are also growing old. Realize that no matter how much time you spend with someone, some days it will never feel like enough. And you very seldom ever realize in the moment how important that quality time is, but later on you’d give anything to go back to it.
So express your love and tell them what you feel you need to tell them. One day, it may be a day too late. Because it seems…sometimes…we forget to remember others. And the older you get, the less people seem to contact you, especially if you get invited out and keep saying no. Isn’t it scary knowing that at any time, could be the last time you ever talked to someone? Keep that in mind.

23) Maintain integrity. They are very few things  to take to the grave with you. The number one thing is your reputation and good name. Do it right all of the time, no matter what the cost. You are usually remembered by the problems you solved or the problems you created. One day you”ll just be a memory for some people. Do your best to be a good one.(unless you’re an asshole and proud of it, then no one will care)

Most of the time, the only difference between who you are and who you want to be, is what you do. When it’s all said and done, be sure you haven’t said more than you’ve done.  So through out our life I believe we always want to do the best for ourselves and for others. But so many times it’s so hard to make the right decision. I think what works best is going with our gut feeling and what it’s saying. So just to confirm that feeling, alot of the decisions we make everyday should be made with the help of a an unwritten law called, it’s either fvck yes or fvck no. Either you are excited to do it with a fvck yes or a fvck no because it’s feels like a bad idea and not right for you. It assures you are happy with your decision. So make up your mind, it can’t be maybe because that gets you nowhere.

24) In my experience, brains, good looks, money and power mean nothing…that’s not what makes us good people. Your beliefs don’t make you a better person, your behavior does. That should be so crystal clear that anyone from the village idiot to even your dumbest relative will understand. Everyone needs to be compassionate, honest, be true to their word, and have morals. I believe if you act like a asshole, you should always get treated like one. No exceptions. Ever. I’m not a proctologist, but I know an asshole when I see one.

25) Stop complaining about being so busy. You know what? No one cares. The most annoying sounds in the world are whining and complaining. Those who complain the most, accomplish the least. Instead, be grateful for problems you don’t have. Complaining literally accomplishes nothing and takes a problem and prolongs it. If you listen to people who are constantly whining, blaming, critizicing, gossiping, and complaining about everything and everyone, they end up poisoning your mind and heart with their fears, doubts and negativity.

Don’t get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life, because sometimes we just have too many choices to make clear priorities. And being busy does not mean being productive. There’s a critical difference between activity and productivity.
We’ve learned how to rush, but not how to be patient and wait. There is nothing more valuable than time invested wisely. More time is what we want most, but seem to use the worst. Don’t expect your busy schedule to give you a elevated sense of importance. There’s more to life than increasing it’s speed. Usually only creates unnecessary stress.

When you complain, you make yourself into a victim. When you speak out, you are in power. Just  choose your words wisely so you don’t need a paramedic to take your foot out of your mouth. Over the year I have realized, after it’s too late, that I often say the wrong things… but in my heart I mean well…

26) There is always a solution to every problem. You may not like it, but be open minded enough to realize it is possible. We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them. You’re either part of the solution or part of the problem. Let go of your tendency to avoid problems, you cannot change what you refuse to confront.
And complaining about a problem without proposing a solution is called whining, right?

Life is complicated enough some days…why make it worse? So don’t run from your problems…Face them head on…accept the challenge.  Running away is a race you’ll never win. Just don’t have five dollar reactions to five cent problems. Minds only work when open. And whether or not you benefit from them or not will depend on your ability to see the message in your misfortunes.
Break away from the herd and think for yourself. It’s in short supply these days. Thinking after all, is hard work…that’s why not enough people do it…so for some its much easier to be stupid. Have you noticed hospitals aren’t equipped to treat stupid? A handy man losing his temper is the reason we have hospitals…I am 100% certain…but I could be wrong…

But without stupid people here, the rest of us would have no one to laugh at…makes up for the times they test our anger management skills. And those people walk among us, they breed and they vote. We all know the types, they wouldn’t know shit from chocolate with a mouthful of both…I bet some days they have a lot of headaches, because it’s from their brain trying to comprehend it’s own stupidity…
I have to stop saying “How stupid can you be?” Some people are starting to take it as a challenge… Think of how stupid the average person is, and then realize half of them are stupider than that…Even duct tape can’t fix stupid but can help muffle the sound…

The ability to remain open minded is a essential quality to have, and be proud of. We continue to evolve on this planet, so should your thinking. The sign of intelligence is that you are constantly wondering and always want to learn. Usually idiots are always dead sure about everything they are doing in their life, and think they know everything, and can’t be told anything.

And I have noticed its always a good idea to think at least twice, before you try and talk common sense to people, where there normally is none. You will get picked on and singled out. Trust me, it’s never worth it. Learned that the hard way too. Just bite your tongue and observe. But then its hard to observe a preventable fvck up unfold, sometimes you have to though just to prove your point.    

But the problem is that over thinking usually creates problems that weren’t even there in the first place, and then leads to negative thoughts. And that never turns out well. You will think yourself out of happiness, never into it. Refuse to have negative minded people in your life who constantly complain and bring the mood down, they usually have a problem for every solution.
Never underestimate the power of stupidity in large groups of people because common sense is now a endangered species. Look around. Stupidity has no limits…and no cure. Gone are the days of living around the sane and rational. You can have all the wisdom and education in the world, and it still won’t give you any common sense.
Usually only those who have some common sense notice those who don’t. The problem is many times having common sense is a curse, because you have to somehow tolerate those who do not have it. Have you ever talked to someone that made you roll your eyes so far back, that you could see your brain?

We always seem to think that our elders are wise because of their years of experience. But you know what? Stupid people get old too… If you allow crazy/neurotic people to exist in your world, you run the risk of them convincing you they’re sane and you’re the crazy one. I can relate to that. We seem to live in a world dominated by such truly awful examples of humanity gone way wrong.

27) Success at almost anything is inevitable for those who don’t give up. I would say success is simple once you accept how hard it is. But then nothing is impossible if you’re ambitious. If you don’t try the impossible, you will never know if it was or not. Believe you can and you’re halfway there. If you don’t believe in yourself, no one else will. The distance between your dreams and reality is called action. One of the major lessons I remember not being taught in high school is the power of action. Not the power of trying, but doing. The distance between what you want and what you get is always what you do. 

Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds. So keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions and also from ‘still’ people. Still broke, still complaining and still making excuses.
Four frogs are sitting on a log and three of them decide to jump off. How many frogs are left on the log?  Four.  Why? Because there is a big difference between Deciding and Acting. You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do. Actions show more than words ever will.

Kinda sickening when people are all talk and no action. Always stay true to your word. Saying maybe…is just one way to make sure nothing good ever happens. And If you don’t ask, the answer will always be no. Mistakes you make along the way are necessary for you to get where you need to be. No matter how many mistakes you make or how slow your progress, even on those days you act so dumb your mom is ashamed of you, you’re still way ahead of everyone who isn’t trying. Be very proud to prove the naysayers wrong. I have noticed those who have given up on their own dreams will do their best to discourage you from your own. Experience is life’s greatest teacher. Don’t let yesterday determine tomorrow.

And critics are people who watch a battle from a high place then come down and shoot the survivors, usually because they are insecure and have the need to feel superior over you. They can be so critical and act like experts when all they have is an opinion. So don’t let the opinion of others stand in your way. Usually empty insults from empty minds. Way too often it’s just rants comprimised of negativity with no useful suggestions. If you can’t tolerate critics, don’t do anything new or interesting.

So always remember, you can’t be intimidated by a person unless you believe that their opinion about you is more important or more valuable than your own. Maintain your dignity and rise above it. Bottom line, you’re pretty fvcking awesome, so start acting like it. Get it. Got it. Good.

As soon as we allow others to manipulate our values, the same people who sought to change our course actually respect us less, don’t they? Some of us are smart enough to look for solutions instead of pointing out problems. The world is gonna judge you no matter what you do, so live your life the way you want to.
Toxic people cause many to be knocked down but you must be resilient and be unaffected by the circumstance. It isn’t easy to remain emotionally neutral when amongst toxic people, however it is an absolute necessity. When we impulsively react to people that irritate or have wronged us, we instantly get pulled into their own vortex of negativity. Never turns out well.

I think I might be emotionally constipated…I haven’t given a shit about anything in days…So win without bragging, and lose without making excuses. Always remember, if other people are trying to bring you down, it only means that they think you are above them, deep down they’re jealous, and they are feeling inadequate because they don’t feel like they can do what you are or have done, and want to bring you down to their level of misery.
What they think and say about you, isn’t important. So never forget this. Before you ask why someone hates you, ask yourself why you give a fvck…
And again, who the hell cares what people think and say about you if they don’t have the balls to say it to your face. Accept the fact that not everyone will like you. Not everyone matters.

28)  The first to apologize is the bravest. The first to forgive is the strongest. And the first to forget is the happiest. If you’re able to laugh at life’s little tests, and stay calm without losing your temper or coming unglued, you should be very proud of yourself. Woo hoo. Good job. Cue the cheerleaders…

29) The world is full of nice people. If you can’t find one, be one. You won’t ever know it but you are the reason some people smile. It doesn’t cost anything to be friendly…to wave, compliment, smile or say hello, or do a good deed. I always try to do good in the world, because it feels better not to be an asshole. Or maybe you are part of the ass family? Wise, smart, lazy, kiss, or dumb?
Do what is right, not always what is easy, even if no one else will know. Why? Because you will know…And that’s important. Most decent upstanding people don’t really get off on trampling other peoples feelings. If you are one, you know what I mean.

One of the best indications of a person’s character is how they treat people that they don’t have to be nice to. Don’t just be a character, have some. People won’t always remember who you were, but will remember how you made them feel. To make a difference in someone’s life, you do not have to be brilliant, rich, beautiful or perfect. You just have to care. Be kind but not weak. If you expect something in return after doing something kind to someone, you aren’t as kind as you think.
One of the best words of wisdom I was ever told is…”Don’t ever expect anything from anyone else and you won’t be disappointed.” Well said. Never forget this, you will be much happier that way.   

On the negative side though, have you ever gone out of your way to help someone and then find out how ungrateful they really are? It’s really hard to help someone who doesn’t want to help themselves.
Remember, that at any given moment, you are at least 50% of a hug. I’ve never seen anyone complain because they got hugged too much. Everyone likes getting one. Its the only treasure you can give with your heart and doesn’t cost a cent. Ever have that awkward moment when you are about to hug someone extremely sexy…and then hit the mirror?
There’s very few things that feels better to a guy than a special lady having her arms wrapped around his neck, hugging him. Not many will admit it, but a big kiss at the same time makes us melt. Are you with me guys?

Be proud of doing a random act of kindness and to show others the shape of your heart. Besides, you show how selfish and shallow you are, to only think of yourself. The world has become so de-sensitized to others. So sad. To me, there is much virtue in adding value to other people and always remaining anonymous about it. Because when you brag about it, others will think you done it just to seek popularity.  

When ever I cross paths with an ignorant or inconsiderate person, it actually makes me smile. Why? Because I am glad I am a good person and not like that. Almost feel sorry for them wasting their life with that immature mentality. Wouldn’t it be nice if ignorance and stupidity was painful…
After all, life is all about how you look at things. So when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. Your perspectives in life will determine your destination. As I get older it seems to get easier to tolerate life and people cause we slowly tend to give zero fvcks about the crap that used to easily piss us off, when we were younger…

I almost find it fascinating. It’s incredible to the level and degree people will go to show ignorance, deceive and manipulate others, and sometimes just for being as stupid as to show power or for their own personal entertainment. And to prove how big of a dick head they really are, and strangely enough, seem to be proud of it. What ever. Get over yourself if you think you’re better than anyone else, we are all equal in the this world and all have the same reason for being here. Sometimes, when dealing with people, you can’t help but stop and think. Yup, I am about to get my first assault charge today…

Some people seem so uncomfortable and dissatisfied with their own lives that they must bash others in order to make themselves feel better. Many people hate to see you happy especially if they’re not. I swear, some people were conceived through anal sex…there’s no way of being that much of an asshole is natural. And strangely enough, even when you get mad and call someone an asshole, they aren’t even offended because they are well aware of the fact…At the end of the day, just remember one thing, you’re never too good to take out the garbage.

30) Do not judge people  by appearances, A pretty face doesn’t always mean a pretty heart and not only that getting older isn’t always a beauty treatment. . We all wear our beauty on the inside. Your own physical appearance shouldn’t determine your self worth. Our appearance is only a mask that contains the ingredients necessary for life, ones we all share. Fake people have a image to maintain. Real people don’t give a shit. Let go of assuming other people are more normal than you. The only normal people you know, are the ones you don’t know very well. 

31) Being ordinary will get you nowhere. Be brave. Never be afraid to take risks. Time to grow a pair. If you win, you will be happy. If you lose, you will be wise. Nothing can ever substitute experience.
As you move forward in life, you may need to change your circle of friends. Your imaginary friends can stay. Everyone around you isn’t interested in seeing you improve and be successful. A lot of us learn this the hard way…very big eye opener myself.  Envious people will not be happy for you…Ever. Dump your failure support group. Mine has lots of members, does yours? You’re only as great and as smart as the people you surround yourself with, it’s more important in determining your success or failure, than any other single factor in life. The shortest way to get anywhere is to be around good company. 

Because the world is full of people who are no fun, have no common sense, have zero sense of humor, are serious ass kissers, are always making excuses, confused, sad, angry, overwhelmed, possesive, stagnant, diabolical, compulsive, opinionated, needy, negative, outraged, grumpy, birdbrained, disrespectful, crazy, troublemakers, insecure, weak, dickheads, low self respect, frenemies, advanced liars, grumpy, resentful, vengeful, narrow minded, brain dead, un-supportive, needy, physically or emotionally abusive, selfish as hell, delusional, sarcastic, feel no guilt and then enjoy making others feel guilty, borderline split personalities, ugly, shallow, shit disturbers, chronic liars, freebie seekers, time wasters, emotional manipulators, bitter, smart mouthed, jealous, entitled, vindictive, vain, evil, cruel, creepy, insecure to the point they are controlling and too friendly, stupid, uptight, boring, always negative, cold-hearted, ignorant, dishonest, ungrateful, skeptical, unhappy, short tempered, greedy, stubborn, hateful, disgusting, sneaky, cynical, bossy, irresponsible, prejudiced, mean, hot tempered, timid, patronizing, obsessive, deceitful, neurotic, argumentative, spiteful, heartless, materialistic, angry, crazy, cowardly, egotistical jerks, cruel, obnoxious, disgusting, pathetic, vengeful, condescending, unpredictable, unreliable, grumpy, rude, inconsiderate, aggressive, racist, weird, immature, resentful, judgemental, dysfunctional, geeks, circus freaks, misfits, shitheads, boneheads, dumb fvcks, illegal aliens, dimwits nitwits or halfwits, retards, jealous friends, dip shits, macho assholes, lazy slobs, losers, morons, worry warts, smart asses, fvcking idiots, hard to get along with co-workers neighbors or relatives who are arrogant dickheads, couch potatoes, those who have no respect for others, too stupid to make ice cubes, those who can’t think for themselves, and have no concept of reality, those who don’t know what they want and where they are going-no goals or plans to improve their lives, the all talk-no action people, those who insist on being fashionably late, those who feel the need to always be the center of attention, an alarming number of those who really abuse stupidity, those who live in the illusion that they are God’s gift to the world, those who are proud to rain on your parade, those who complain about their life and fail to change it, and always blame others, those who always say maybe or someday, those who can’t keep a secret and then lie through their teeth, those who lie through their teeth to your boss, get you in trouble at work and try hard to make you look bad, those who have a big mouth, have no manners, those who are an instant asshole-just add alcohol, those whose face would crack if they ever smiled, those with their nose in the air, those who believe in fairy tales, those with a crab mentality–If I can’t have it neither can you, snobs, slobs, those who lack empathy, those who are proud of being a fvcking asshole, those with low self esteem who build themselves up by tearing you down, those who are two faced as hell, those who are possessive in their relationships, those who have received their doctorate in bitchology, those who are disturbed enough to want to harm or piss you off on purpose, those who insist on proving to the world they are dickheads and if asked why they can’t tell you why they don’t like you, control freaks, bigots, cowards, lunatics, douchebags, insanely impatient, bitches, dorks, drama queens, drama kings, ice queens, pessimist, whiners and complainers, the self centered who think the world revolves around them, way too many with the personality of a fence post, simpletons, bullshitters, psychos, drunks, losers, habitual critics, my personal nightmare are the Dr Jekyll and Hyde types–change mood or personality every time they turn their head, those who feel the need to be an asshole just to make life difficult, and those all around good people who don’t have a life and can’t mind their own damn business. And of course those who just don’t want you to succeed. Whew…did I miss anyone? Many of these people get their kicks putting you down, when you are up. Sometimes, I think Hell is other people. So should you ever find yourself the victim of other peoples bitterness, smallness, or insecurities, just remember:Things could always be worse. You could be one of them.
    
And to know who your true friends are, look for the ones who say good things behind your back and bad things to your face. True friends will support and be happy for you. Hang out with those who are intelligent to the point of making you smarter and make your life better by being your friend. And with those who have a common future with you, not a common past. Find those who want to make something of their life.
You are who you surround yourself with because you eventually tend to share the same behaviors, actions and even personalities with them. They have the greatest impact on our way of thinking and our decisions. So surround yourself with people who dream bigger than you do.

If you spend time with the wrong people, you won’t have time to find the right people. Negative people see the difficulty in every opportunity while positive people see the opportunity in every difficulty. I have noticed there are three kinds of people in the world, those who are good at math and those who aren’t…

Ever have one of those nights when you and your band of merry misfits are out on the town and have had a few too many wobbly pops, and people tell you, “you’re gonna regret that in the morning?” So I sleep in till noon, cause I am a problem solver…Problems are not meant to stop you. They are meant to teach you. I just read an article on the dangers of drinking…scared the living shit right out of me. So that’s it. After today, no more reading…

On occasion, and before you get down to the smart part of the bottle, it never hurts to raise a drink to celebrate good times and life when out with friends. “To the nights we can’t remember with the friends we’ll never forget”  At least hangovers are temporary. Drunk stories are forever. I woke up this morning to the sound of my neighbor mowing the lawn. I figured he’ll just have to mow around me, I’m not moving…

I just rescued some whiskey. It was trapped in a bottle. But in alcohol’s defense, I’ve done some pretty dumb shit while completely sober too…We really should drink more of that clear non alcoholic liquid. I’ve tried it…it’s awful. I heard it’s called water…

What about one of those days when you wake up without a hangover but then you realize…it’s just because you’re still drunk? No one looks back on their life and remembers the nights they got plenty of sleep…Besides, no great story ever started with someone eating a salad…

32) We’ve all heard that knowledge is power. Are you busy seeking knowledge or are you content to go through life knowing only what you know today? The world is changing everyday. Educating yourself does not mean that you were stupid in the first place, it means that you are intelligent enough to know that there is plenty left to learn. Most of the problems in life come because of two reasons. We act without thinking and we keep thinking without acting.

Signs you’re addicted to failure–you entertain yourself instead of educating yourself. And you complain often and change little–you wish your life was better but don’t make any commitment to improve yourself or your circumstances. We are what we repeatedly do. Actions speak louder than words and will always dictate where our priorities lie.

33) Do you wake up every morning, and think you have nothing good and worthwhile to wake up to? Even if you’re misguided by unfulfilled caffeine intake? Those times that you’d sooner yank your hair out than continue down the same path you were on yesterday. Those days you get that gut feeling that you would see a polar bear riding a tricycle down the street, trying to pass a leprechaun riding a unicorn, long before your day would go as you had planned. We all have too many days when we feel stressed, depressed, pissed off and pissed on.

If the simple things in life don’t put a smile on your face then you will never be truly happy. It’s not about having what you want, but wanting what you have. If we do not feel grateful for what we already have, what makes us think we’d be happy with more? Always look at what you have, instead of what you have lost, or think you need.
Concentrate on creating something positive instead of eliminating the negative. It is in your present moment of decision that your destiny is shaped. Every new day is an opportunity to make your life better. No excuses. Because when you make excuses, you’re saying “Things are fine the way they are.” Which is usually wrong.

34) Do yourself a favor and unplug from technology once in a while and reconnect with the world. We are rapidly losing the art of having a conversation. Anyone older than a microwave oven will appreciate this. I believe we are setting up our children for incomplete, handicapped lives devoid of imagination, and creativity when we hook them onto technology at such early ages. Everyone smarten the hell up and quit using your cell phone while driving. What message is important enough to risk your life and others for?

We are now a generation of smart phones and dumb people. We live in a world where an attention span is a scarce commodity and therefore have such a short attention span that gets bored so easily that we need something to amuse us every minute of the day. We have created our own A.D.D. Try and send a friend one text message with three questions in it. I bet you don’t get three answers. Here’s an interesting thought…before technology got so huge, people thought stupidity was caused by the lack of information…

If you are in that dark hole of pointless texts with someone who constantly doesn’t reply, they’re usually not worth your time. It shows there’s no respect to put some effort towards you.
Most of this technology just shows us how lazy we have really become and it makes us more disconnected from the world. We no longer own our time on this planet, our devices and distractions do. When I was young I had A.D.D. too…but I suddenly healed when I saw my dad taking off his belt…  O_O

With the increasing reason to live inside the pool of light in your palm, cell phones have long been blamed for the apparent drop off in younger generations ability to connect with other people, and ruining human interaction. In this age of constant social and environmental change, always needing to be plugged in, always sharing, and always comparing society we live in, it’s not surprising we feel lost, stressed, insignificant and somewhat detached from the world, out there. So don’t ask your kids to unplug, give them a reason to. Texting is very convenient but its a brilliant way to mis-communicate how you feel, and misinterpret what other people mean.

When you are so busy looking down, you won’t believe the opportunities you could be missing. Screen time is taking away from play time. But screens aren’t the bad guys here, our willingness to let go of them is. So, make it a habit, set down your phone. Look Up. Live life the real way. Be sure to prioritize some electronic free time during your day. The world will survive for a while without knowing what you are doing.
If you are important enough, they will wait for you. Checking up on everyone in your social circle usually leads to depression or low self-esteem. Do you really care what’s going on in their lives? Are you proud of them, just nosey or need something to gossip about?
So put down your technology, actually look someone in the eyes, and talk with them. I was addicted to a mobile device when I was a kid, it was called a bicycle….

35)  The only reason to save money is to invest it. You can not save your way to a millionaire status. Understand that there is a limit on how much money you can save, but there is no limit on how much money you can make.  Rule #1. You’ll have more money in the bank by making more money. Quit spending money like it is gonna go rotten. You’re not making real money till you make it while your sleeping. I consider myself pretty lucky. I am set for life with money, provided I die before next Tuesday…I am still a million bucks short of being a millionaire. My current financial status…I just washed off a paper plate…

Make it a rule that you never use debt that won’t make you money. Wish I would have learned that when I was young. Eliminate all ideas that tell you that being poor is somehow ok. Being wealthy is a state of mind but so is being broke. But over the years observing many people have shown money doesn’t mean nothing…till you don’t have any.
You can’t get rich carrying a lunch pail…time to quit trading time for money. If you are getting up everyday and go to a job you hate, that ain’t living. That’s existing. Right? My dream job…is not needing one.

If you start your own business, you get to be CEO. Could be the easiest money you will ever make without wearing a ski mask…Will you regret not taking the risk? Now before the thought of that makes you throw up in your mouth, consider this. The greatest pleasure in life is doing what people say you can not do. “The few who do are the envy of those who watch”  If you believe in yourself, it’s amazing what you can accomplish. I support anyone following their heart. Diligence and persistence will get you there. Yes it will take courage, and courage is being scared to death and then doing it anyways.

So think big. Really big. Be the exception. Because really what’s the point other wise? So don’t be afraid. What’s the worst that can happen? You fail, you learn, you start again. The path to success is littered with people who were put there just to test you to see if you really deserve it. Nothing can stop you when you realize that every challenge that presents itself is to teach you something in your journey.  

Sometimes fear or good judgement will hold us back but if you want something bad enough you will do what ever it takes to get it. And when the time is right, be sure to do the one thing that will help you get what you want. Ask.
Most people get ahead during the time that others waste. Some will say that you can’t win. I prefer to think that I can’t lose. Life is all about the perspective you have and how you look at things. I figure I never lose. Either I win or I learn. 

There’s absolutely no job security working for someone else. Pretty depressing some days working your ass off so your boss can retire early. People who get rich don’t do it by working for someone else. Rich people see money as a tool to make more money, and they often think and spend it like they are poor.
Think about the risk you run in leaving your livelihood in the hands of someone who can take away the source of your income any time they want, usually with just a single decision. People with skills work for people with ideas. Be an idea person.

Dream Big- it’s the first step to success. The world is full of things that according to nay-sayers, should have never happened. Curiosity, an open mind and a willingness to take risks has got the world to where it is today. Everything around you that you call life, was made up by people who were no smarter than you are. A friend once told me that someone with half your IQ is making 10x as you because they aren’t smart enough to doubt themselves. Makes sense. 

Every one you meet knows something you don’t so it’s a good reminder that we are always surrounded by teachers and good ideas. So, Anything is possible. The only thing stopping you, is you. Never give up on something you really want. It’s really difficult to wait, but it’s more difficult to regret.

And, if you can’t handle failure, then you’re not gonna get very far either. When you feel like quitting, think about why you started. If you came into this world broke, it’s not your fault. But if you live the rest of your life broke, then that’s your fault. And if you would happen to lose your next two pay cheques and then be close to living in a card board box in your neighbors driveway, it’s long over-due you change your thinking and do something about it. Some people dream of success while others wake up early and work hard at it. Being rich isn’t always the goal, the freedom is.

Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know of to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. The perfect time to start something new… never arrives. A year from now you will wish you had started today.

The poor, unsuccessful and unhappy are the ones who use the word “tomorrow” the most. Most often waiting for the right time is just waiting for a new set of excuses to show up. Use these three words to guide you forward to a positive new beginning. These words are, “From now on.”

We are taught to get a good education so we can get a good Job (Just Over Broke) so we can work 45 years of our lives and then retire on less than half  of what wasn’t enough to live on in the first place. So be sure to save early for retirement. You don’t want to still be working till around noon on the day of your funeral. And check up on once in a while and make sure you haven’t lost the things that money cant buy, like manners, respect, and patience. If you are curious, ask those around you.

36) How many times have you suffered when you jumped to conclusions before you had all the facts? So, never ever assume anything. Assumption is the mother of all fvck ups. And once and a while it may give you the feeling you crossed the line you didn’t even see? If ever in doubt, always ask more questions. There’s no such thing as a stupid question…there’s only stupid answers. I have learned over the years it is way less embarrassing to ask many stupid questions than it is to make a stupid mistake.

37) Your communication skills you show to other people, shows how much respect you have for them. How many times have you got a text message, email or phone call and couldn’t be bothered to reply? If you can relate to this…what the hell is wrong with you? Show some respect to those who contact you.
Or just as bad, you never got a reply from someone?  People aren’t going to think you’re hard to get, they are going to think you aren’t worth getting to at all and not worth dealing or being friends with. It’s making you invisible. So prove to others you respect them and always reply as soon as you can. Your communication with others is always on purpose. People only make time for those who they want to make time for.

Don’t you hate when people greet you and say “What’s up”? Isn’t that just a polite way to say what the fvck do you want? Respect is something we could all appreciate more of but never seem to get. Seems our lives have enough people where no one wants to tell anyone else certain things, just so they seem smarter or more important. Childish or power trip?
So be a good listener, it’s the most important part of communication. Are you usually listening or just waiting your turn to talk? There is a difference. Because you don’t learn anything when you’re talking. 

Just to vent, isn’t it close to sickening that many big corporations can’t have a real person answer the phone when we call there, instead of waiting on hold or talking to a stupid machine or call center? Missed calls result in phone tag, a supremely idiotic and unnecessary game in an age of bountiful communication alternatives. What a waste of everyone’s time. Somehow seems ok for them to waste our time yet it’s almost a crime if we waste theirs. Give me a silent nod if you can relate.

I believe there are few things in life that are more disgusting than dealing with a heartless business that kills us with their stupid rules and greedy service charges, that always shits hard on the little guy. And then brag about the tens of billions of dollars in profits they make every year.  Wouldn’t be so bad if they would brag about much good in the world they have done with it. Pretty sad that the world is greedy as hell and only concerned about the bottom line. Loyalty and being a long time customer or employee means less than zero now.

But at least with more technology, things such as online banking and less in person customer service hours, we don’t have to be loyal to any one company. We can go where we get the best deal. We are only a number, whether some want to admit it or not. And it’s pretty scary to learn how we are getting spied on all the time too, like how our online actions being tracked is out of control. Convenience is soon gonna trump privacy. Modern technology these days is pretty damn cool, but too much technology isn’t always a good thing. Just because we can doesn’t always mean we should. Just wanted to whine. Wait, wine…that’s better. Vent over. Just sayin…

38) There are only so many times you can allow someone to let you down before you will no longer tolerate being disappointed. Don’t ask why someone keeps hurting you. Ask yourself why you keep letting them. The first time was a lesson, the second time was a mistake, the third time, well, anything more is just taking advantage. Accept the fact that they just don’t respect or care about you. It means someone failed to notice what you have to offer. Protect yourself from those who feel it’s their right to degrade and belittle you.
But when a toxic person can no longer control you, they will try hard to control how others see you. A toxic person is usually a master of manipulation. They will get a cheap thrill from getting an emotional outburst from you. This almost always happens at the work place. Making you look bad where you don’t even know it’s going on.

So be sure you don’t start seeing yourself through the eyes of those who don’t value you. Know your worth, even if they don’t. Don’t give anyone the impression that your feelings are something to disregard. Takes a while for us to realize sometimes but some people aren’t good for us to be around, no matter how much we love them. They can stay in your heart but not in your life.

You can’t earn others respect if you’re a pushover. But nothing you do or don’t do changes your value. So stay true to yourself and never sacrifice who you are for anyone or anything. Ever. Give the gift of your absence to those who do not appreciate your presence. Spend more time with people who bring out the best in you, not the stress in you. I think it takes an extremely insecure person to control and abuse another. It’s more common than you think.

There eventually comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won’t any more and who always will, and when you have to stop crossing oceans for people who wouldn’t even jump puddles for you. So stop being a people pleaser. Because you usually make everyone else happy, except for yourself. You’ve got to do what’s right for you, even if it hurts. And when we let our feelings rule us, we never make good decisions. Sometimes the problem is that we have been taught what to think, instead of how to think. 

You don’t need disrespectful people in your life who don’t treat you well. No exceptions. Yes, I mean no exceptions. People with good intentions make promises, people with good character, keep them. Do you have people that disagree with you? Good. It means you’re standing your ground. The more confident you are, the more fun you’ll have. Confidence comes naturally with success but, success may only come to those who are confident.
So many choices in life we have to use either our head or our heart to decide, but yes, easier said than done, our gut feeling is usually right.
Life teaches us lessons with rapid regularity. But sometimes the best lessons in life are the hardest to learn…and accept. People forget that it is your own choice how you want to spend the rest of your life. Live life on your terms. Life always offers you a second chance, It’s called tomorrow.

39) Another day begins and here you are, lost in your own thoughts, caught between the fantasy world of your future and the cold harsh reality of the present moment, lost in a sea of anxiety and confusion.  Hard not to dream of running away from home and joining the circus. Frustrating some day’s isn’t it? And the goal is not to get rid of all your negative thoughts and feelings. That’s impossible. The goal is to change your response to them.

We all too often forget how you use your time will be the most important decision you make in your life. The present moment is the most precious thing there is. Its the greatest gift you can give someone because when you dedicate your time, you are offering a part of your life that you will never get back. And on one of those days someone catches you two knuckles deep picking your nose, consider how you could make better use of your time.

So if you have time on your hands, don’t waste it. Spend it with someone special. It could be something they will always cherish the most. Here’s something else we also forget. People always say they are too busy and don’t have time. Well, you can make time in your life for what ever you want if you feel it is a priority. Think about it.
If you don’t value your time, other people won’t either. So be proud of being punctual, not like those who insist on being fashionably late. But then some would say it’s better to be late in this life, than to be early for the next one.

Don’t worry about the future…it hasn’t happened yet. Just prepare for it, and for the unexpected. The best way to predict the future is to create it.  Always look forward to it though, because that is where you are going to spend the rest of your life. The past is a memory, the future is just a mental projection. You are responsible for exactly who, what and where you are in life. That will be just as true this time next year. And it’s impossible to get there if you don’t know where you’re going. Its strange though, few are willing to put in the effort required to change their lives and circumstances. Its just way easier for them to complain. And it then creates the illusion that you have done something about it.   

40) Don’t wait for the storms of your life to pass. Learn to dance in the rain. Try to be thankful for the bad things in life. For they opened your eyes to the good things you weren’t paying attention to before. Just keep this in mind, your track record for surviving every bad day you have ever had, is 100% so far. We must learn to observe and ponder what is going on in the world around us. (I bet you never noticed there was no item #13 on this list ?) There are always signs pointing us in the direction our life is supposed to go. Everywhere around us there are choices…to learn, meet new people, start better jobs, become more independent.

But it’s your job to notice and recognize them, to do something about it and take some chances. Often the most extraordinary opportunities are hidden among the seemingly insignificant events of life. If we do not pay attention to these events, we can easily miss the opportunities. When people feel like they have no sense of direction, no purpose in life, I would say it’s because they don’t know what they want in life, what’s really important to them, and usually don’t value anything. Way too often we act directionless because of a lack of clarity and purpose. It’s never too late to get your shit together. So even if you need a haircut and chew your toe nails in private, you can still pull this off. 

Life is a journey with many detours. Wishing and hoping isn’t a strategy. That usually never turns out well. Maybe its true…We don’t know what we really have till we lose it and we don’t know what we were missing, until we find it. So get some fresh air and take a walk in nature, enjoy the sunshine, soak up some sun on the beach, then watch the sun set over the water, burn the good candles, use the nice sheets, wear your new clothes, enjoy a fine beverage, spend time with a special someone, do what ever makes you feel alive at the moment…don’t save these for a special occasion. Today is special. You don’t have to be rich to live richly. Remember how precious life is and how easily it can be taken away. We have no guarantee we are going to be here tomorrow.

41) Life has its challenges, but whatever difficulty comes your way also brings with it a chance to discover strengths you didn’t realize you had, to spark your creativity, to develop new confidence and become even more capable than you ever were before. Just because others have limiting beliefs doesn’t mean you have to. So aim to only be mildly stressed by situations, not by people. The first five days after the weekend always seem to be the hardest ones…

So keep going…each step may get harder  but it will be one step closer than yesterday. But don’t stop. The view is beautiful from the top. Sometimes the darkest times can bring us to the brightest places. Your mileage may vary. Big problems sometimes disguise big opportunities. Failure is just a way to point you in another direction, it’s only a temporary detour, not a dead end. We often look back at our failures, but we rarely look at how far we’ve come since those mishaps. Obstacles are just stepping stones to amazing places. Because if you aim at nothing, you will hit it every time.

Be grateful for the things in your life, because the universe rewards those who appreciate what they have. I don’t know how my story will end, but nowhere in my text will it ever say…I gave up.  Yours shouldn’t either. The real reason you never complete your goals is because you probably don’t believe in yourself and your abilities.
Real wisdom in life comes from doing something and failing at it.  It may not always end pretty but then neither did my last high school report card… You can retake a class but you can’t retake a party… I may be an under achiever, not a idiot…

We will all experience many ups and downs through out our life. And how you mentally deal with your obstacles will dictate your success. Bottom line, it’s all about your attitude. When things go wrong, do you ask yourself why do bad things always happen to me and what am I doing wrong, or how do I fix it and how do I make sure it doesn’t happen again? Ya easier said than done but try to embrace the uncertainty of life…it would be so boring if you always knew what to expect. Right? The fact is, once in a while you just have to do things just for the fvck of it, just to see what happens. Because they exist. Because you can. Just curious, when was the last time you did anything for the first time? Keep in mind that if you obey all the rules you’ll miss all the fun.

When life puts you in tough situations, don’t say, “Why me” instead say, “Try me”  We learn something  new every day, lots of times the hard way, but which is probably more important, is to remember the things you already learned.  Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out. How you do anything is how you do everything… Every morning you have two choices. Continue to sleep with your dreams or wake up early and chase them. Build your own dreams or someone else will hire you, to build theirs. You must learn to be confident in yourself and your abilities. You. Can. Do. This. End of story.

42) Remember, you have full control over your reality. The only limitations that can hold you down in our life are those we impose on ourselves, and live only in the six inches between your ears. Your life is what you perceive it to be and nothing else because the only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.  

Time out for a minute. Let me break some bad news to you. If your not satisfied with your life, stop doing what your doing because the person you are today is the direct result of the decisions you’ve made and the actions you’ve taken. It’s creating your current dissatisfying reality. Think about that, it’s time to change something. Create a life that feels good on the inside, not one that just looks good on the outside to everyone else.
So search. Explore. Experience. Learn. Improvise. Adapt. Overcome. Share your wisdom, truth and your smile. Never lose sight of who you are.

Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions. If you don’t know what you want, you will end up with a lot you don’t want. It’s probably time to decide. And I have noticed this seems to take way longer than it should.
Learn to live and prioritize properly and to enjoy the simple things in life. As long as you are clear about what you want in life, don’t ever feel guilty about saying No when necessary. Because saying No means you are in control of yourself. Always remember to factor yourself high on your list of priorities. Just don’t be greedy or selfish about it.                                                                                                                                                                              

All you experience in life, all the things that you do, all the things you live through, all of that only has meaning, if you give it meaning. Otherwise it’s nothing more than a blink in time. Accept the things you cannot change, control what you can while you cope with what you can’t.  Remember, there is always something to be thankful for.

Begin each day as if it were on purpose and by always expecting good things to happen. First thing every morning, when you kick the covers off, tell yourself, “Today will be a great day.” After all, attitude is everything…And our attitude is the one thing that we always, always, in every circumstance…have control over. Always show gratitude and appreciation.  

43) We all have to find our purpose in life. Have you ever found yourself wandering around in life, feeling like you have no direction and that there is something missing? To be truly happy in life, I believe you have to follow your passion. Write  down the top 5 things that you love in life, pick one and pursue a career around that. One that makes you money and also one for a hobby, something you are naturally drawn to. It works easy, when you are ready and willing to make a move. It could really be that simple.

Ok. Ok. I get it. Some may say that’s pretty shitty logic. So put it this way. Ask yourself, what do I not suck at? Get off your ass and discover what feels important to you, what can you do with your time that will add more meaning to your life. Do what you love and you will love what you do. So always do it for yourself, not to prove to others you need their attention.
Be proud to be you in a world that’s trying to influence every move you make. It’s not what you say to everyone else that determines your life, it’s what you whisper to yourself everyday that has the greatest power. So don’t look to others to give you permission to be yourself.  

Isn’t it about time you shook your world up, on your terms? Just make sure there are zero fvcks given if anyone else doesn’t approve. Will it be easy…not always. If it was easy, everyone would be doing it. Is it worth it? Absolutely. Only then, will you be on your way to be truly content and happy in your life. Think about the kind of person you are and the abilities that come naturally to you, it will help you gain insight into your life’s purpose.
While planning your future is important, be sure to give yourself a chance to enjoy your life as it is along the way. And there should only be one path, and that’s the one behind you. The hamster wheel approach to life is pretty boring so make your life exciting right now. Welcome to your future. Don’t forget to have fun.

So be happy with what you have while working for what you want. Never let the odds keep you from pursuing what you know in your heart, that you were meant to do. Probably more enjoyment in falling in love with the process, not always the end result. But then, nothing gets you focused more than creating a deadline. Choose to live life differently than you have, for one simple reason…because you can. And nothing says you have to participate in the latest trends and styles, unless by your own choice. If you want to dress like everyone else, join the army.

I think every day, we should all say something similiar to this, to ourselves. “This year is my turning point. From this moment forward, I am taking consistent action to change my life. Starting right now, life will be better. If anything good can happen, it can happen to me.” Because your thoughts become your reality. So, now get to work. Everything has a next step. What’s yours?

44) What you want to change, how you want to change, the aggrevations you accept or tolerate, what you believe in, how and where you choose to live, your career choices, is what defines us as a person. Only you, can give your life purpose and meaning. Each morning I wake up and say to myself, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood…or you can choose to be in a bad mood. I choose to be in a good mood.
Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or…I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or…I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life. You are the product of your choices, not your circumstances.

If you can be content right now, then you’ll always be content, because it’s always right now. Judge your success by how you are enjoying your life. If your life is filled with things you hate, you lack the confidence and motivation to create a life you love. Every new day offers you a chance to create a happy ending. So do something that makes you excited to get out of bed in the morning. 

And there’s never a good time to take advice from people who don’t have to live with the result of your decisions. People know your name, not your story. And they usually forget that it is virtually impossible to fully understand certain life circumstances until they actually happen to you. So never offer advice to people who have a history of not listening.

You will only ever enjoy and live the life you create for yourself, not always by yourself. What is the one thing that’s always coming, but never arrives? Tomorrow. It will be just like yesterday, if you don’t change something today. Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do, than by the ones you did do. And where’s the fun in that?

I think the most dangerous risk of all–the risk of spending your life not doing what you want on the bet you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later. We always pretend we have more time. Don’t be scared to switch paths, when it makes sense to you. The thought “I can’t,” is a lie. We use it to excuse ourselves from ever trying. To get something you’ve never had, you have to do something you’ve never done. Can’t argue with that right? So never say never…that’s a awfully long time. Everything happens for a reason…but sometimes the reason is you’re stupid and make bad decisions. Or…did it just seem like a good idea at the time?  We have all been there. I tried petting a grizzly bear once. I don’t play the guitar any more…

45) So take too many pictures, laugh too much, dance like no one is watching, because they’re not, they’re probably checking their phones. Your dance moves may not always be the best, but making a fool of yourself is way more fun than sitting at the table alone. Don’t ever be afraid to be human. Your first and only thought should be not to care what anyone else thinks. Ever.
So love like you’ve never been hurt because every 60 seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you’ll never get back. Life is too short. Count your life by your smiles, not tears. And happiness isn’t about getting what you want all the time. It’s about loving what you have and realizing how blessed you are to have it. People say money doesn’t buy happiness, but it’s much better to cry sitting in a Mercedes than on a bicycle…

Some numbers are very important in life, I don’t feel your age should be one of them. Our age is more than a measurement of time, it’s a huge catalogue of experiences.  So really, our age is not as much as a number as it is a point of view. So don’t allow a number to hold you back or prevent you from being the person you are on the inside. If you think old and act old, you’re gonna be old. Then again, you are only as old as you feel.
If you didn’t know how old you were, what would you guess your age to be? There is nothing wrong with thinking younger than we are. You know you’re getting old when you go to bed at the time when you used to go out and it seems the older I get, the earlier it gets late.

Create a life that does not need the validation of likes, posts, tweets, favorites or comments. Don’t get caught up in instant gratification syndrome because our decisions are now influenced by the cumulative opinions of others. Connecting to the world should mean spending time with people in real life, speaking and interacting with them.
I have noticed many are pretty bold to voice their opinion online with comments and usually talk pretty stupid when they don’t have to say it to your face…and it’s always where no one cares. 

Everyone sits safely behind their screens, with little to no consequence. We are slowly being conditioned to never have to deal with conflict. So now “it’s also Ok to be a jerk because everyone’s anonymous online”  Welcome to real life, where nobody cares if you get offended and your feelings don’t matter.

Arguing online with idiots with nothing better to do wastes a tremendous amount of time and emotional energy that is better dedicated to your work, family time or other interests. You can try to defend yourself but doesn’t work 99% of the time. The reason? You can not use logic to remove from a persons mind a thought that was not put there by logic in the first place.

46) Every time you’re confused about what direction to take in life, always remember that great relationships and financial freedom are the first road to take. It will steer you towards a happy and rewarding life. I bet you didn’t know that my girl friend has a pretty awesome boy friend…
And I would say having a healthy sex life should be number 3 on the list of essential living requirements right behind food and wat…alcohol.  By the way, real men treat women with respect, and they won’t treat her like an irritating obstacle or a sexual convenience. Ladies, if you want to strike a huge bit of fear into your special man, just smile really big and ask him, “Notice anything different?” Sorry guys…

Life is essentially about the love you’ve given and received and the memories you have created in the lives and hearts that you have touched. When we are in our final days, what will you want? What will matter then will be people. If relationships matter most then, shouldn’t they matter the most now?

Here’s something to think about. Ask yourself constantly, “What for me would be a good life, and what do I need to do to die happy?” Think it through then make it happen. It won’t hurt. I promise. The bad news is “time flies”  The good news is “you’re the pilot”

47) Ok, now come a little closer, because this is very important. Being you have read this far, you have the determination to learn and the desire to want to make changes in your life. Keep up the good work. So take action and keep going. Realize that you have a priceless opportunity. Forget the past and what could have been. May the best of your past, be the worst of your future. Today is the first day of the rest of your life. How are you going to live it?

 Because how we spend our days is how we spend our lives. Consider this. If you didn’t choose to live your life better when you could, and take advantage of all of life’s pleasures, do you think that if you ever met your future self, would you probably get punched in the face? That’s not the story I want to tell my grand kids. And to those two special guys, I know you will do well in the world, you have great parents. Love ya

If you want something, be brave enough to go after it because it shouldn’t matter who it goes against as long as your being honest about the kind of life you want to live. And you don’t have to justify that to anyone. It’s the everyday things that make you feel alive. It is not always whats there at the end of the day, but the essence of everything you do during that day. The older you get the more you realize you have no desire for drama, conflict or stress. You just want a safe cozy home and surrounded by kind people who make you happy.
Life is one long series of decisions. In every moment, whether you realize it or not, you are making a decision. What to do, what to believe and what to think about. And it’s the caliber of those decisions that will ultimately determine the future of your life.  

When we are on death’s door, we will then only realize how much time and energy we wasted on things that didn’t matter. We all want to lay down our heads at the end of our lives, and know we lived well, with astonished gratitude and fantastic memories. Coming close to death gives you the best opportunity ever to try to live better. Let us begin this very day the process of creating a wealth of experiences and memories that will endure in the hearts of those we love long after we are gone. One day your life will flash before your eyes. Make sure it’s worth watching.

What would you be proud to hear your self say, in your final moments? Will you be happy with what you did, with the time you had? We sure won’t wish that we had worked more. Will you have said more or done more? Don’t you want people to say you made their life better by being a friend of mine? Our graves are all the same size so stay humble.
It shouldn’t take dying for us to realize the beauty of the world around us but it usually gives us a greater sense of appreciation for life. As sad as it seems to be, it’s sometimes the most awful moments in life that give us a golden chance to notice and acknowledge what’s truly important to us.

I would say our ultimate goal should be to make as many people as sad as possible when we die. When the time comes and your family is saying your eulogy speech, what will you be most proud of that they remembered you by? Live your life well so no one has to lie at your funeral and your epitaph boldly states “no regrets”  Of course you want them to say that you made the world a better place. Don’t make the bad things you did in your life the only thing people remember about you. So if there isn’t much to brag about yet, it’s time to work on that. You don’t want your last words to be “I can out run that lion”

 Just recently a good friend revealed to me he is sick and has been told he has less than six months to live. What choices would you make? I was seriously curious, so I tried to delicately ask, “What is it like to wake up each morning and know that you are dying?” Well, he replied, “What is it like to wake up every morning and pretend that you are not? We all have a limited time on earth.” Ok, good point. Always listen to someone who has experienced how valuable life and time is. Your life is made up of two dates with a dash in between. The date you were born and the day you die. Will you be proud about how you spent your dash along the way?  

Life is short, yet amazing. Enjoy the ride. Follow your dreams. You have exactly one life in which to do everything you’ll ever do. Living your best life starts right now. Find ways to celebrate your life. So act accordingly. May you never forget what is worth remembering, and never remember what is best forgotten. So what did you do today that you’ll actually remember?  If you could offer someone, or even your younger self, one piece of advice, what would it be?

Don’t ever forget, happiness is a choice. Don’t fear change. Laugh and enjoy life.
It’s truly all that really matters…

Thanks for your time

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I.P. Freely
Grateful for everyday
Annoying the neighbors since 1962